I have a question for you. What do you remember about being a teenager or a young girl? (It should not take long since we are ALL pretty young!)
Many memories come to my mind, both good (happy face) and even the not so good (double sad face). The memories that are not so good relate directly to my struggle with insecurities. Sure, I smiled all of the time and did the best that I could to EVERYONE’S friend…I know you can relate right!? But deep down inside I questioned my personality and I definitely was not happy with my body image. Between the television and the magazines, my thoughts of beauty was altered. And constantly being told that I talked too much, was too loud, too short, or just too anything by certain people did not help at all either. The worst part about it (yeah it gets worse!) is that I carried these insecurities with me into adulthood….and eventually motherhood. The way I parented when I had my first child was strongly based off of trying to follow what everyone else “recommended” I do. I frequently questioned my capability to be a great mom….and the strong, confident mother. I would cry often and grow frustrated with other people. All because I had such insecurities. Two boys and a high maintenance diva later, I have grown strong in knowing that I’m fully capable of being a good mother and a darn good woman.
So what caused this growth in loving who I am? I realized that in order to have sanity in my life and live fulfilled, I have to love myself first. The world of critics will destroy you if you let them. Allowing other people to dictate or control how you feel about yourself causes a disservice to you. Sure, many if not all moms face moments of insecurity. So here are some essential exercises to help you establish self-love. I still apply these exercises in my life. Because self-love takes a big effort on yours and my part on a daily basis. You must believe that who you are needs no adjustment. I’m super excited to tell you what I do grow in my journey of self-love. Ok! Here they are.
Take A Break! And then Restart!
Cut out every source of media (TV, Facebook, Twitter, a Beauty Magazines, etc.) that makes you feel insecure. Work on yourself and return to the media only in small doses.
The Love Letter!
1. Address a love letter to yourself.
2. Date it with a future date.
3. Write about how far you have grown in your journey of self-love and be specific in how you accomplished it!
Every time you casually smart something negative about yourself, say 3 things positive about yourself. This includes conversations you have with other people!
Don’t compromise who you are to satisfy the world. Loving yourself unconditionally frees your mind to actually care about what matters most…..you and your family. -Domonique Townsend, Founder of Meltdown Momma