Let’s face it, all mothers fake it at least 70% of the time, the other 30% is spent on thinking about how she is going to fake it. I often think back to what inspired me to begin my Meltdown Momma movement; what drove me to want to inspire others to “keep it real”. I realized that I was tired of faking it, I wanted to feel free. We are so caught up in putting on a persona acting like we have it all together. We forget that our main focus is to simply take care of our family. The world of faking it is old news! When you fake it and pretend that nothing is ever wrong, you will only hurt yourself. Being honest with yourself yields a greater benefit to your overall well being. Being in tune with your feelings, and allowing yourself to be human actually makes you happier and more confident. I’m not implying that mothers should bring out the pity party, but allow yourself to not worry about how you appear to people. I would love for the world to be full of happy moms that are comfortable in their own skin. Start today!
Warning this statement might be harsh: Most veteran mothers already know what you are going through, faking it is something that makes some mothers feel offended if they really care about you. Know that there are some people that actually care for you, take off your armor of defense. Now on the flip side, don’t waste your time thinking of a story of flowers and candy for the “ready to judge club”, they will only talk about you even more.
I have three tips for “keeping it real” and healing yourself from the “fake it” syndrome:
1. Know that body language speaks more volume than what is expelled from your mouth. Be honest with yourself as your non-verbal actions may already reveal how you truly feel.
2. If you feel like you need to fake it, chances are you are around the wrong people. True friends and supporting family members offer support not judgement.
3. It is not a competition, you do not get a medal for appearing to be more “stress free” than other mothers. God chose you specifically to raise your kids, only you are the best for the job! Do what is best for you and your family.